Being a housewife or a “houseband” is a job, whether or not others would acknowledge it. Most full-time homemakers feel unappreciated, unrecognised, or feel judged because of this choice. But we should also acknowledge the reasons why this setup is a privilege on its own. Continue reading “Being a Housewife is a Privilege”
We moved to Melbourne.
I skipped two months of blogging because 1) we got our visas, and 2) my husband got a job offer in just a week after. We had six weeks to pack up our life in the Philippines–our 30-something years’ worth of ‘life’.
On my bucket list, an item reads: Live in a different country for at least a year. I’ve crossed it off before thinking living in a hotel in Seoul for three years would count, even though I get another room on a different floor every time I come back exhausted from a flight.
Six weeks was barely enough time to get excited. In fact, I think we didn’t get excited until we’re at the airport. My slightly OC mental task list was legit on a roll from the moment the alarm goes off. I had a Google spreadsheet of the tasks categorised and organised per week! (Trying to get used to spelling in Australian English, ICYDN.)
It’s now been a month since we left Manila, and we’ve just moved to our own apartment. (Nobody told me it was too tedious to do that here!) We’re happily surviving winter, and of course I am too eager to complete my small kitchen for my next kitchen adventures. It’s time to learn how to be less Asian now (in terms of cooking) and make do with what is more common in the market.
Excuse me while I resume cutting cardboard boxes so it could fit the recycling bins.
Once we had our venue confirmed and booked, the rest of the wedding preparations were made quite easily. Because we did not want/need suppliers in the wedding industry sense, all I needed was a few phone calls to finish my preps. Continue reading “DIY Wedding: Other details”
Arguably one of the most important aspects of the wedding is for someone to officiate it! Since our families are of different religions–think four to five religions within our small group of twenty–we opted for a non-secular one.
However, we found out that a civil wedding is quite tedious in the sense that you have to pre-arrange for a schedule with the judge of the jurisdiction, AND need to be wed in his chambers. There’s a risk of not getting the time and date that you want, as it’s dependent on the judge’s schedule. From other blogs, the surest way to get the date/time you prefer is if you personally know (or know someone) the judge. As we’ve already decided on the place and the date, we weren’t going to take chances.
Through mighty Google, we learned that we can be wed by a solemnizing officer. The what? Continue reading “DIY Wedding: Solemnizing Officer”
When my fiancé and I eliminated Batanes as our wedding destination, I asked him for his second choice. I love the beach, but I didn’t feel like I wanted a beach wedding. It was then a choice between Metro Manila, or somewhere out of town. We have also decided on the date, which fell on a Tuesday. So that definitely was something to consider, given that it’s school season, and adult family members are mostly employed.
Without batting an eye, he replied with, “Out of town, definitely.”
“Where?” I asked.
After that conversation, I spent a couple of hours pondering and narrowed down our ideas and preferences: Continue reading “DIY Wedding: Venue”
For most brides, the dress is–and will always be–one of the most important factors of their wedding. For me though, I’m not big on the couture wedding gowns that cost an arm and leg, beads-and-sequins-to-last-a-lifetime kind of outfit. Once we’ve decided to go for a garden wedding, I thought I should go for a loosely-flowing gown, no train (because nobody needs that IRL, unless you’re royalty, me thinks), one that suits my body type, and doesn’t look tacky with the beading and all that. I also wanted a dress I can re-wear, in its original form, or if I have it altered shorter after the wedding.
I checked with my fiancé, and asked him what he’s imagined his bride to wear. He said, “A white dress with something like an intricate crocheted layer…like the usual Filipino mom table runners.” Huh? In case one of your eyebrows is raised, he meant a white lace dress.
As someone who hates shopping (I must have been a guy in my past life) the first thing I did was, of course, to Google “white lace dress Philippines.” Ding! Zalora to the rescue! Continue reading “DIY Wedding: The RTW Dress”
Okay, I know that sounded like a scam. Or a clickbait title. It’s not. You read that right. We spent only 103,000 pesos for our small and intimate Tagaytay wedding INCLUDING payment for legal documents, and pre-wedding pampering!
In May of this year, we have just taken our first steps towards the minimalist lifestyle when my then-boyfriend proposed to me on a quiet beach. Shortly after the surprise and [hours of] shock have subsided, we talked about what our ideal weddings were.
Off the top of our heads, we both wanted an intimate, simple, and authentic wedding.
I guess with the booming wedding industry here in the Philippines I’ve come to a point of feeling like weddings are now depicted as a spend-all-your-money-in-this-once-in-a-lifetime-event day rather than being centered on marriage, togetherness and the emotions that wrap around it. Continue reading “Our Php103,000 DIY Wedding”